![]() ![]() One is saying you can do it, and another one is telling you it isn’t worth it, just get back in bed. If you’re like me, you have at least two voices in your head. You have to trick your mind and your body. Do a little more today than you did yesterday, celebrate yourself, and then do a little more tomorrow and celebrate again. The most lasting change happens incrementally. Are you doing too much? Did you go from never reading to trying to finish 100 pages a day? From never working out to an hour of squats? Now, let’s think about how you are trying to create new habits. Now it is, “I want to lose weight because I love myself and I deserve to be healthier/look how I want.” If you are trying to change because you appreciate yourself, I think you’ll have plenty of long-term motivation. Think about how you want to change because you love yourself. Instead, reframe how you think about your motivation for change. Negative motivation runs out when you don’t see a quick win. Your stomach is going to take time to change. If you’re trying to inspire yourself by saying “I hate my stomach,” I think you’re setting yourself up to fail. Negative motivation will run out fast because change takes time. Are you trying to use negative motivation? Are you telling yourself, “I want to do this because I hate how I am now?” Stop it. When you think about the change you want to make, you know it is hard so you need to motivate yourself the right way. Isn’t that fantastic? And he makes an important point. Or you’d love your nature too, and what it demands of you. So you were born to feel “nice”? Instead of doing things and experiencing them? Don’t you see the plants, the birds, the ants and spiders and bees going about their individual tasks, putting the world in order, as best they can? And you’re not willing to do your job as a human being? Why aren’t you running to do what your nature demands? What do I have to complain of, if I’m going to do what I was born for - the things I was brought into the world to do? Or is this what I was created for? To huddle under the blankets and stay warm? ![]() We all have that moment where we think the bed feels fantastic, and why would we ever get up? There’s a great Marcus Aurelius quote about this that I love:Īt dawn, when you have trouble getting out of bed, tell yourself: “I have to go to work - as a human being. It starts from the moment you wake up in the morning. We’ve been doing things our way for a long time. An object in motion wants to stay in motion, and we face inertia in our lives, not just in physics. We often underestimate how hard change really is. So as you hit the wall and think about giving up, think back to the reason you wanted to change. You wanted to change something for a reason. You made a resolution because you wanted to change something. You’re fighting against all of that to conquer your resolution, whether it was to go to the gym, eat less sugar, stop smoking, stop drinking, meditate more, lose weight, read more books, or work on your relationship. January 1st wasn’t some magical day that erased all of your routines and your muscle memory. ![]() Your mind is used to the habits you had last year. Your body wants to live this life you’ve been living. ![]() You are not a failure unless you completely give up. You are not a failure you’re just going over some speed bumps right now. How can we change that? If you gave up, or if you’re thinking about giving up, I want to talk to you. Approximately 23 percent of people give up after just a week! Only 19 percent stick with their resolution long-term. By February 1st, the average person has moved on. Statistically, this is the time that people give up on their resolutions. If you’re one of the people who committed to a big change this year, you might be frustrated. Don’t be annoyed, the gym needs them to stay open too. If you’re like me and always at the gym, welcome the new members. Every year in January, the gyms are packed. ![]()
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